Heterosexuality

Heterosexuality in action: The reverse cowgirl.

The Joy Of Sex

In some ways this sermon might be better titled "sexuality", however it deals largely with the issues affecting sexual relations between man and woman and hence the title.

Loving sexual pleasure is the greatest pleasure that a human can experience. It is not the most mind-blowing (need hallucinogenic drugs for that), is not the most exhilarating (need adrenaline sports like sky diving for that), is not the most self fulfilling (need journey of self discovery for that), yet it is all of these and so much more.

For sheer pleasure: that warm, glowing, languid, exquisite delight there is nothing to compare with loving sexual congress. It stimulates all the senses, it causes the abandonment of the everyday mind in pursuit of instinctive desire, it makes the blood flow and the breathing deepen but most of all: IT BRINGS ONE INTO THE CLOSEST POSSIBLE CONTACT WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.

It is this deep connection with another person, another agu, and the revealing of one's self to the other that gives sex its spiritual character that makes it so special and so prized above all other human activities. So important is this activity that it is simply not possible to have a full life without it.

Since sexual love is the greatest pleasure in life and the closest form of social interaction, and since two of the major goals in life for an agu are to enjoy life and to interact with other agu it behoves us to have a great deal of sex and to experience all that it has to offer in the deepest and most satisfying manner that we can.

Heterosexual Evolution

Yes, sexual pleasure evolved as sex evolved, as the species evolved, to ensure the continuation and optimisation of the species, through sexual reproduction and family upbringing, but we can go beyond that, we have reached the stage where we can be masters of our own evolution. No longer does sex have to be all about reproduction. Since the advent of contraception one can separate reproduction from the sexual act and concentrate on the joy and meaning of pure sexual love.

Men and women are designed to have mutually satisfying sex, more so than is the case with homosexuality. The man has a penis that swells to fit the vagina. The vagina produces plenty of lubricating fluid to aid the reciprocating motion of penetrative intercourse, and there is a natural feeling of "rightness" from both parties about the man being inside the woman. Of course the woman's clitoris is not always stimulated by penetrative sex and may need to be stimulated independently in order for the woman to obtain full satisfaction, but this is merely a matter of technique and not a physical limitation.

Heterosexual Difficulties

With the above in mind it is unfortunate in the extreme that most of the adults in the world have unsatisfactory sex lives. The great majority of men are not getting enough sex because they can't find a woman to give it to them and the great majority of women don't want to have sex with their men because they don't love their men or because their men exhibit poor technique and attitude.

Both Women and Men desire and need frequent sexual intercourse, but women desire only the quality article, and this form is seen by most of them, as too hard to achieve, so they give up trying and remove sex from their life's positive activities, simultaneously removing it from their men's as well. This drives men to create a market for prostitution and pornography and turns them against women, creating misogynistic fetishes such as sadism, slavery and rape.

Clearly this situation is unacceptable and must be solved. Fortunately it can be, because the desires of men and women are not incompatible. Women seek loving, attractive men who will respect them and enjoy them for what they are, (rather than a fantasy image that the man wishes to project onto them), who are clean and considerate and who have the sympathy and skill to stimulate the woman until she is quivering with orgasm, who use their strength to excite the woman rather than oppress her, and who appreciate the value of love. Men are more easy-going and would be happy to just live their life the way they want and get a root once or twice a day. However they will generally be happy to give and take of love and won't mind if sex takes an hour or more, so long as they get their rocks off. In addition they are more than happy to respect their women so long as they deserve that respect.

There is no fundamental problem here, no fundamental incompatibility standing in the way of happiness for both sexes. The problems that are currently being experienced are due to the flaws in the world's social cultures.

Mutual Respect

A woman cannot enjoy sex if she feels she is not being respected. They may be exceptions among the fetishists but this is basically true. There is a price to pay for all actions, or as Newton said: "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". Cultures where men treat women as second-class citizens are cutting their own throats because they are denying themselves a decent sex life. They may be able to demand penetration with an unwilling partner but it will not be nearly as rewarding for them as it would be with a partner that was excited and loving. Nor will it be as long or as frequent.

The only solution to this problem is to change the culture. In fact the need to change the culture is the raison d'etre for this entire religion. Women and men must enjoy equal power, both outside and inside the home. Exactly how that works, considering that women and men are very different, is another matter, but equality of power is a necessary precondition for respect.

Respect is about more than just equality of power though, it also means respect for the way in which one's partner lives their life, for the capability of their mind and their attitude of responsibility. It is wrong to only respect people who live their life in the same way that you do. Tolerance and imagination are needed so that one can see how another thinks and feels. It is only when one can put oneself into the shoes of another that one can properly respect them. They don't have to live their life like you and you don't have to live like them, but one should be able to see value in the lives of most people and be able to respect them for it. After all, your life is no more important than that of others. It is only you that think your life is the most important in the world!

It is especially difficult to put oneself into the shoes of the other sex. Because of the innate differences one can never entirely know how they feel but with good will and a little imagination one can get a long way towards it. Any step towards this goal will increase one's respect for one's partner and greatly increase the quality of the relationship and particularly the sex.

Of course not all people are worthy of one's full respect. They deserve one's respect in that they are fellow Ura and infinite and unjudgeable in that aspect, but their agu in this Shoku may be judged, since it is mortal and finite, and it may be that it may be found to be unsatisfactory. If you stand in the shoes of another and see that they are lazy, dirty, greedy, twisted, incompetent, stupid, selfish, evil etc one may quite rightly disrespect them. Everybody wants you to respect them, including gangsters and the mentally retarded, but they don't automatically deserve it.

One should stand in the shoes of one's sexual partner and try to understand them and try to respect them. If understanding brings only disrespect one should discontinue the relationship.

However, notwithstanding all this, the greatest and most indispensable part of mutual respect is EQUAL POWER.

Sexual Technique

It is easy and common for a woman to blame the man for poor sexual technique. A woman is difficult to fully satisfy sexually, no one can teach a man how to do so except his partner, and few women have the confidence, understanding and persistence to educate their man effectively. A man on the other hand is easy to satisfy, at the simplest level all he needs is partner willing to open her legs. This requires no skill whatsoever on the part of the woman and hence they are seldom blamed for a poor sexual relationship, even though they have done no more than the man to improve things.

A man must be taught:

that a woman is not ready for penetration until her vagina is well lubricated.
that there is no rush, that if one erection falls another will follow.
that foreplay is enjoyable, not least because of the knowledge
that it will end in satisfying penetration.
that sex can be enjoyed in many positions.
that sex can be extended almost indefinitely, especially by the older man.
that a women can orgasm any number of times.
that a clitoral orgasm is different to a vaginal orgasm and is absolutely necessary for complete satisfaction.
that breast stimulation is necessary and exciting.

A man must be taught how and when to pleasure the clitoris, the vagina, the breasts and nipples. He must be taught how to use his hands, his fingers, his tongue and his penis. And it is the woman who must teach him. It is difficult for the woman to know such things when she is inexperienced herself. This is one reason why people should not marry virgins. Having said this, if one is in this position one should do the best one can. You might be inexperienced but you can still know whether you like something or not. It is vital for the couple to speak during sex to let the other know what they like and don't like and to suggest what they would like the other to do. Of course one doesn't want to control everything one's partner does, but one should ensure that he/she does eventually give you what you want.

Likewise a woman needs to be taught the necessary truths about a man:

That a man needs to shoot forth his semen.
That even the sight of his woman naked turns him on.
That he needs to have sex every day or he won't be happy.

These truths are pretty obvious to the woman so he doesn't need to instruct her in the same detail as the woman needs to, nevertheless they must be understood.

Ideally a woman should not just lie there telling the man what to do, but should get involved, take the initiative regularly and stimulate the man. Like the man, the woman should be instructed on the use of hands, fingers, mouth and breasts and how they should stimulate the various parts of the man's body, in particular the penis and testes. It is not as easy as it might sound: few women are really good at performing fellatio and few can give a hand job as good as the man gives himself. It is up to the man to instruct his partner in these matters.

Sexual technique is not all there is to sex, if the fire is not there the sex will be unsatisfying but when the other ingredients are present it is indispensable. IT MUST BE LEARNT!

Perhaps it should be taught in schools? Or perhaps there should be special brothels where each sex can receive practical experience and instruction from an expert. There must be some mechanism whereby adequate sexual awareness, technique and confidence can be instilled.

Loving Attitude

A couple may adopt a variety of attitudes during their sexual intercourse. A loving attitude is common, especially in the early days, but there are other attitudes such as revenge, dominance, boredom, duty, resignation and impersonal pure physical need that permeate the bedrooms of the world. Tensions in the other spheres of a couple's relationship manifest in the attitude of the sexual participants, where perhaps, if they are lucky, they may be exhausted and dissipated. One cannot divorce the sexual relationship from the rest of the relationship.

The most rewarding attitude is the loving attitude, for both sexes. It is only the loving attitude that properly nourishes the relationship. Proper love provides the warm, supportive environment for expression, understanding and repair. It is natural and it is divine: a mainline to the Uru. Love provides a constant, truly reliable source of sexual inspiration. The more you feel the extent of your love for your partner and the more you feel their love for you, the greater your sexual excitement. You will never grow tired of love. You may fall out of love but while the love is there it will continue to inspire you.

Perverted sexual attitudes may be exciting but they do not nurture a well rounded relationship, nor are they an endless source of sexual inspiration. The excitement of perversion is like an addiction where the dose needs to be increased in order to maintain that high level of excitement. A person who is turned on by the sight of bondage may then move on to wanting to see pain and then injury and ultimately death. But then what? After all perversions are exhausted evil has nothing more to offer and is then finally seen as unsatisfying. In addition to being evil, perversion is a dead end and should be eschewed. It is unnatural and is the result of a psychic wound or flaw. Such wounds should be healed if possible.

Homosexuality is not necessarily a sexual perversion. Sado-Masochism is. So is slavery.

Fetishes & Obsessions

Obsessions with body parts such as ankles, feet, breasts, chests, buttocks, waists, penises, testicles, necks etc are relatively minor perversions that spring from the essential characteristics of the sex that one is attracted to.

The alteration of body parts, especially the erogenous parts, such as breast implants, nipple piercing, labial or clitoral piercing, penile piercing, tattooing, shaving etc may be done to facilitate the physical pleasure of sexual congress, it may be done for the purpose of titillation or more likely for both reasons. Where facility ends and perversion begins in these matters depends on the case in question. Having said that, if these practices don't interfere with one's normal life they are of minor concern.

Major alterations that are clearly serious perversions should be eschewed. Unnatural alteration or removal of parts of the genitals, scarring, absurd breast or genital implants, branding etc represent perversion to a level dangerous to the well-being of the agu. People who force such alterations on others are guilty of a serious crime.

Rape

To force a fellow agu to comply with your sexual demands when it is clearly against their will and they are clearly not enjoying the experience is against the most essential ideals of this church. This church believes in RESPECT for fellow agu, and nurturing and support of them. Obviously such perverts are not interested in the happiness and well-being of their intended victims.

Rape is a serious assault because it violates the person not only externally but internally.

Criminal Perversions

Adults wanting sex with the pre-pubescent is clearly a perversion. Children are not ready either physically or emotionally. For a young agu to have its psyche permanently damaged for the sake of the temporary gratification of the perverted is unacceptable. Presumably such perverts are incapable of a real sexual relationship with a fellow adult due to some flaw in their psyche. If they can be healed they should be, else it should be made impossible for them to reoffend.

Slavery is perhaps the greatest crime a person may commit. To deprive another of liberty against their will for the sake of sexual perversion amounts to continuous rape. One must shudder at the fear, pain and mental and physical degradation caused by extended exposure to such barbarity and the terrible self loathing that must follow. Truly an horrendous crime.

Cannibalism as a sexual fetish is obviously a massive perversion of the sexual instinct; to eat someone is clearly very different from fucking them. If it is done between consenting adults perhaps it is not such a terrible crime; after all, in such circumstances it could be seen as a form of assisted suicide. To kill and eat someone against their will is, of course, murder.

Conclusion

A loving sexual relationship embodies all the ideals of the Doctrine of Infinite Dimensions. It values and nurtures one's Uru and likewise that of one's partner. It makes life enjoyable and inspiring. It is in many ways the highest and truest embodiment of humanity. It is not necessary that it be used to produce children, but it is appropriate that if a new agu is conceived, that it should be at the culmination of this loving intercourse.

Sexual relationships that do not revolve around love are perversions that result from a psychic wound or flaw. If possible such wounds should be healed. Minor perversions should be tolerated, major perversions prevented.

A quality sex life is ESSENTIAL for a fully rounded existence. It is possible that the great majority of us can achieve this with the right attitude and technique. It is up to society to ensure that people acquire this.